My Little Bubble …

Life is stressful enough, right? I consider myself to be a normal person. Typical girl with an interesting back story, a survivor of past circumstances, hard worker, life learner, mom of many … always trying to find a balance between three jobs, exercise, family, friends and also have some peace. It isn’t always easy, but I am going to let you in on a big part of keeping my sanity. I don’t watch the news. I prefer to be in my little bubble; aware of it all, but not listening to it day in and day out.  

How do people do it?  

The last year and a half have been rough with the division on racism and politics. People are being brainwashed all around this country, and their opinion depends on what news channel they watch. Folks sit on their couches listening to other people’s rhetoric and then repeat it to others as if it was gospel. This isn’t going to change anything, and the divide continues. The media thrives on this and I won’t participate.

I can’t stand politics. I think most politicians start out with true ideals and then get sucked into the system and forget why they started. The first time somebody says to them, ‘I will help you on this issue if you help me with mine,’ the road originally paved with good intentions becomes skewed, the potholes start to grow, and they become lost on the highway to hell.  

I don’t need to watch the news to know what goes on out there, I only have to pay attention to my immediate world.

Take, for example, the issue of racism. It has been deep all around me. I take it personally … I really do. Its been a lifelong endeavor for me when I realized what it was, and the fight continues. It isn’t just because I have a new family member I love who happens to be a person of color. It has always disgusted me when people use the “N” word in front of me. Some people think if a black person can say it to another person of color, so can they. I can’t follow that logic.

If as an Italian, you want to call somebody a ‘guinea’ or a ‘wop’ then go for it.  It is disrespectful, but maybe you mean it in a loving, playful way? But I DO NOT believe you have any right to use slang or derogatory vernacular towards another person that is not the same culture as you. The origin of the offensive “N” word goes back to slavery and inflicted on one race of people. If you aren’t of that lineage, you are not entitled to use it and shouldn’t be. I honestly don’t believe you should use any culturally-induced slang words, but if you choose to, keep it in your own world.

If you still choose to use this dehumanizing word, then please, do not use it in my presence. I find it offensive and contemptuous.

If you can not respect my feelings, then my bubble gets smaller.  

Do you know how many times in my life I have had a conversation on racism when somebody has made a claim not to be a racist because they work with or have hired people that are Hispanic or black? News flash … that does not mean you aren’t a racist. It’s how you talk of people and about other humans that is meaningful.  

So to keep my little bubble a kinder, less stressful place, I may also have to keep some people out of it. I can’t control how they view the world or the things that come out of their mouths, but I can make a choice not to be around it. However, I will still hope and pray one day, they see it differently. I will choose to believe, deep down, most people are better than their words or behavior and will one day choose to lead with their heart.

Who knows how some people have been raised or brainwashed or why they feel the way they do? I will try my best not to judge, but I do not have to accept it.

The beauty of a bubble is it is semi-permeable; some things can pass through while others can’t.

So you see, I don’t have to watch the news. I know it exists without it being thrown in my face day in and day out along with all the other bad news and political rhetoric. I know there are bad people, but I prefer to focus on the good. The only world I am in control of is the one immediately surrounding me … my own personal little bubble where I decide what comes in and what goes out. The place where I will work hard and try my best to only put kindness and acceptance back out into the universe.

With love for humanity,

Sandy

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